What do you do when your heart is shredded, your self-confidence is in tatters, and the anguish of your soul manifests either through scalding tears, murderous anger, or simply the unwillingness to go on living? How do you put back the pieces of a splintered heart?
In July of 2007, I found myself in this very place. My husband admitted that he had had an affair. He told me that while he loved the other woman, they had ended their relationship, and he was willing to work on the problems in our marriage. We spent the next nine months muddling in muck, as I like to call it. For those nine months, our healing was not pretty. We both were guilty of dwelling in our own hurts, never moving forward. I was stuck in a mantra of pain: how could he or why did he have an affair? There was self-doubt. Wasn’t I good enough, pretty enough, or…? My husband was in the midst of justification for the choice he made, living in denial that it was his decision to cross the line of his own moral compass.
However, the story doesn’t end there…
My husband and I were able to walk through the chaos and destruction of infidelity to the other side. But because I have experienced the pain and hopelessness of betrayal, it has become my life’s purpose to help other women in similar situations.
Have you, too, been in the pit of pain and devastation like I was? Did you find yourself praying for someone to come along, reach in, and pull you out? Someone to give you a helping hand or a shoulder to lean on when you couldn’t stand? Or did you go searching for a book by someone who had gone through what you had and survived?
This is that book for you.
My co-authors and I have shared our stories to give encouragement and hope to others who are on a journey of healing from infidelity. To those who have recently learned that they have been betrayed, to those who are stuck in the chaos and devastation of betrayal, to those who want to help others move beyond the betrayal (coaches, counselors, etc.): we offer this book as a beacon of hope, as a testimony that healing is possible.